Sheryl Berk, for New York Daily News, writes about workplace changes.
It's not the life most men imagine for themselves: swapping the boardroom for the nursery, the briefcase for a diaper bag. But Jeffrey J. of Brooklyn wouldn't have had it any other way. An interior designer and architect, there was no question in his mind that he would stay home and care for his newborn son while his wife, a corporate lawyer, returned to work after maternity leave.
"It just made the most sense. My work could be done from our apartment while the baby napped - and my wife's work brought in the steady paycheck. We knew it was the right decision."
At first, he got teased and taunted by other fathers - the ones who couldn't understand why he wanted to watch back-to-back episodes of "Barney." "You know, 'Oh, so you're Mr. Mom now, huh?'" Jeff recalls.
The neighborhood moms weren't much kinder: "I'd go to birthday parties or playgroups and I could sense the whispers. They felt like I was intruding.
"What people don't get is that it's the hardest job in the world. It's the most responsibility I had ever known in my entire life - and also the most rewarding thing I've ever done."
Plenty of other men feel the same way. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, there are 150,000 stay-at-home fathers (SAFH) in the United States. But researchers estimate the real number to be closer to 2 million; the Census Bureau figures do not take into account fathers who work part-time or from the home.
Meanwhile, Phyllis Korkki writes in the New York Times that times haven’t changed as much, since stay-at home fathers are still a rarity.
Times have certainly changed since the days of “Leave It to Beaver,” when Ward Cleaver, in a business suit, won the bread and June Cleaver, in an apron, served it. But we are far from being a “Mr. Mom” society, too.
In 62 percent of married-couple families with children under 18, both the father and the mother are employed, according to recent data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics. A sizable 31 percent adhere to the traditional ’60s sitcom mold, with the father being the sole wage earner.
A mere 5 percent of the fathers are not working while the mother is employed, the data show. The statistics are silent on which of these fathers are jobless by choice.
But it is clear that the urge to earn remains strong among fathers, and that a man’s ego may suffer a blow if he decides to stay home.