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It Is What It Is

by Outside the Box on November 2, 2007 7:19 AM

“I accept things for what they are”, rolls off the tongue in a liberating sort of way. It feels refreshing, exhilarating and can be the sweetest thing one has ever known after a long struggle trying to bring about an unnatural change. Yes, acceptance is an absolutely amazing thing to achieve but the reality is it’s often easier said than done. Accepting someone or something means that despite how much you dislike their attributes you are willing to either love or leave them as is.

A friend of mine once told me, “everyone or thing comes with its own set of issues”. The challenge is in knowing what you can and cannot deal with. It’s frustrating trying to make something work and fit inside a box that it was never designed to be in. Think about it working 9 to 5 at a job that is unchallenging and unfulfilling. You think if you take on more responsibility it will suddenly make you happy when 9 times out of 10 it will still make you unhappy with some additional responsibilities.

In personal relationships accepting someone for who they are can be devastating if you are attached to your own expectations of who the other person should be. It’s all about letting go and letting the person show you who they truly are and from there making a honest decision on the strength of the relationship.

I challenge myself in accepting things for face value and not my unrealistic expectations. Besides, like the catch phrase goes, “It is what it is.” So why bother making something become what it’s not?

Comments (3)

I find this to be very true. Some people cannot accept things for the way they are. They think that they can make it better with a few personal touches. Has it ever occured that maybe the change should come within? Our diffrences make us who we are, appreciate them.

— Posted by GUIENT | November 2, 2007 5:14 PM | Comment Permalink

Alicia- Excellent! The concept of accepting someone for who they are is good advice, including ones self.

— Posted by Janine | November 2, 2007 11:04 AM | Comment Permalink

I remember reading somewhere, "Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at will change."

I personally use this strategy and recommend it to people all the time. It's absolutely true and can make a world of difference both in your personal and professional life.

— Posted by Angel Adams | November 2, 2007 8:17 AM | Comment Permalink

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